CHANGE YOUR MONEY PARADIGM

Feeling a lack of money from under the thick ceiling above your head that actuaries and other financial professionals and politicians and crooks have created, which work together to help keep you down financially? (And no, I’m not a conspiracy theorist! I’m just educated and experienced.) Well then, you might need to change your money paradigm.  Paradigm shifts can help you progress or stifle in this world and specifically in the world of work and money.

boardA paradigm is a framework or glasses, so to speak, through which a person sees or thinks about a certain topic–in this case, money and making money. Paradigms of thought naturally shift and change during personal growth. A lack of ability to handle a paradigm shift can get in your way, which actually means that you can get in your own way, when a potential paradigm shift becomes too confusing or scares you as it brings up the unknown and challenges thinking patterns you were taught growing up, perhaps some things that are even hidden deep in your mind.

icebergFreud saw three components to the structure of the non-physical mind: the id, ego, and super-ego as defined below:
Id — In its simplest terms, the id is composed of our base instincts.
Super-ego —  The super-ego works to moderate impulsiveness, encourages good morality, and generally plays the critical and moralizing role. The super-ego can stop a person from doing certain things that their id may want to do.
Ego — The ego is the organized and realistic part of the mind that I like to call the parent of the id and ego, which I see as two children with opposite drives in life.

I suggest that a money paradigm change begins with the ego

balanceThe ego, as I understand it, regulates everyday behavior and expectations, including the way one thinks about the relationships among money, action, and time. From my experience, the average person, assumes that there is a connection between money and time, the longer you work, the more money you will make. I note that there is truth to that assumption when one is paid a certain amount per hour. BUT, this puts a cap on earning potential based on the fact that there is a maximum of 24 hours in a day.

There is another group of people who don’t necessarily base money’s dependency on time. These individuals see money as a result of certain actions taken. Take the example of selling a car. If the price tag of that car is a non-negotiable price of $15,000, the seller will get 15,000 for selling the car whether the buyer takes 30 minutes or 3 hours to make the purchase. In this case, time is irrelevant and the action of buying the car determines the amount of money transacted based on the price of the car.

psMy recent experience in selling programs that make money, if anything, has shown me that people have a hard time switching from–thinking of money as tied to hours–to thinking of money as tied to action. I believe the strength of the ego is so formidable, that changing from the ingrained belief that “time = money” to a belief that “action = money” causes a cognitive dissonance so uncomfortable that the individual becomes anxious and often “gets in one’s on way.” The individual often cannot make the switch of one money paradigm (way of thinking about money) to the other money paradigm. That discomfort is so strong in some cases that clients make up excuses for not being able to continue a program that would literally make them very wealthy.

It is unfortunate that this helps propagate the dynamic of the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer–especially with 1% of the population holding the world’s financial resources.

Could it be that the lack of money that the 99% find in their lives is at least somewhat self-imposed? I say, yes, absolutely. So, if you are lacking finances, ask yourself, do you need a paradigm change? Could you handle one? Or would you find yourself so uncomfortable with new ideas about money that you would make excuses for why it wouldn’t work–I don’t have time, I can’t do it, it’s a scam, it’s a pyramid, it’s not happening fast enough, it’s too hard, I can’t pay the money, and so on–just to avoid the discomfort of change? Well, perhaps the adage of nothing ventured, nothing gained is especially true in the world of money. I’m glad I’m a bit of a risk taker and can handle a good amount of cognitive dissonance.

Thanks, Rory Ricord, for communicating to me some of the money dynamics mentioned in this post. This would be a great research topic!

Visit my websites at:    http://leslieoffers.com
http://leslieoffers.gamelootnetwork.com

Also: http://roryricord.com

Author Leslie Anderson Jones earned a double-major BS in Philosophy and Psychology and an MS in Technical Communication

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LINK POST BLOGGING — A New Way To Work Online and Actually Make Money

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Link Post Blogging – is the Guaranteed Way to make money through creating a single website that allows you to market literally anything.

With Rory – you will be shown exactly what to market, where to market, and how to make money right away.

You get a mentor – Work with Rory’s Staff to build up your Hourly, Daily, Weekly, Monthly income Goals – there are no limits to the earning potential.

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TESTIMONIAL

Hi. This is Leslie Jones and I am one of “Rory’s bloggers.” It is so fun for me. I love learning new skills and how the Internet REALLY works. I absolutely love creating a worldwide presence for products that I CHOOSE to advertise for to sell and make money. Rory has given me the skills and tools to make this happen for myself–and my family. Now I KNOW I can manage my own time and not be “slave” to others, not get bossed around by others. Listen, I grew up with three big sisters who bossed me around, I’ve had enough of that! 🙂

When I say this is fun for me, I really mean it. I feel like I’ve finally found my niche. I have my own websites now. I work with other BIG companies and choose the products I find interesting. Honest, this program is a dream come true for me. My personality requires, I would say DEMANDS that I have the freedom and creative freedom to create something significant. Well, this is it! Honestly.

And I have an amazing mentor. He answers ALL my questions. Sometimes we talk via Skype and often by phone and email and text. He is always available to me. He helps me so much. He is always explaining new ways to build up my income streams. I have unlimited potential now to make as much money as I can.

And I can’t say enough about Rory Ricord. He is honest, generous, giving, and truly wants you to succeed. At first, I worked with another company to create a website. The other company charged me 5 times the amount that this is program is virtually giving away Rory’s secrets. The other company gave me about 1 hour, honestly, 1 hour of training. Rory’s program, Blogging with Rory, gives me input on how to be successful anytime. I reach out to my mentor and he reaches out to me. We’re a team.

Now, I’m at a point where I am a mentor! I love it! I get to pass along what I have learned to others who want to make money online! How cool is that!

This program is 100% stone guaranteed too! Rory is so sure that you’ll make money with this program, that if you follow his instructions exactly and after two months, if you don’t make money, he will personally GIVE you $500. Flat out. That’s how sure he is that you will be successful at this. You can’t go wrong. You have everything to win. All you have to do is blog and post links and Rory will teach you how. If you can use a computer and type, you can do this and make money.

If you don’t like the average day-to-day routine of fighting your way through traffic and dealing with a strict environment and ornery co-workers, if you need retirement money to live on later in life, if you just want to work from home, this is an amazing and truly viable option for you.

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I AM MORE

Here’s my story. I am well-educated with a BS double major, an MS degree, international experience, 15-20 years as a government contractor, and a mom of three. I also spent 3 hours commuting each day, sat at my desk nose to the grindstone at my computer, AND miserable.

Recently, I made a career change. I love to get up and work. I get to stay home with my kids this summer, go swimming during the day, play badminton in my yard, and do just about anything I want to and have access to. I can even go to the lake nearby and play volleyball. Actually, I’m at Pine Knoll Shores, NC on vacation at the minute. Yet here I am, writing, working, actually–because I want to.

But I’m curious. Why, to some people at least, does my current career choice seem somehow “less” than a “real” job? What do I do? Network marketing, blogging, website maintenance, selling products online, recruiting, and mentoring. And I love it! I really, authentically love what I do. I have a  passion for it. I never imagined myself doing this.

And I don’t think I would have ever gotten here without being OPEN. Are you open? Could you make a change like I have? Maybe you love your 9-5 and more power to you. But I, for one, realized that I literally could not sit there at my desk for one more minute. So, one day I did the unthinkable. I packed my things and politely bid adieu. “How unprofessional!” you just said to yourself. I know. I never would have done that in a million years up until that moment. And I admit, I did go back for another month, but by then, I had given my notice of intent to resign.

But I realized that I could not continue to go against what my whole being was telling me–GET OUT before you die here. That’s what it felt like to me. So I took that trite-sounding leap of faith. Of course it wasn’t trite for me, it was the most freeing thing I’ve ever done.

Now, lest you think I recommend walking out of your job with no passion or plan ahead of you, I need to inform you that I started my businesses a year before this leap of mine. But I was open enough to even do that! And in network marketing, online advertising, blogging, no doubt. I left a great job. Good people, meaningful work (or it should have been, but wasn’t for me), good salary. But I realized I was brain-washed into thinking that I had to do what everyone else is doing. That’s just it. It wasn’t for me.

Now, I’m so glad I made the changes that I did. Truly happy even. Challenged, Rewarded, my voice is being heard.

So why is it that some people think that network marketing, selling products online the way I do is somehow “less” — less respectable, cheap, a scam? That I am somehow “less” for doing it? It’s not any of those things for me. It’s one of the best things that I’ve ever created for myself, made happen for myself (with the great help and support of Rory Ricord). Because of these changes, I feel more, I play more, I laugh more, I would go so far as to say I am more–more of myself and who I am meant to be.

So there. I’m just sayin’.

What do you think?

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Have Back and Neck Problems from Narrow Feet and Ill-Fitting Shoes?

Do you have back pain? Do you have narrow feet or ill-fitting shoes?

I have narrow feet, so narrow in fact, that I couldn’t stand on them until after I was two years old!  I would just roll over! I remember getting braces on my legs to help me stand up. We had this great shoe store that had narrow sizes. These days it seems a lot harder to find good narrow shoes that aren’t too expensive.

The thing is that if you’re shoes don’t fit right, at the very least, you’ll be crabby! At worst, you can have back, foot, and neck problem.Some common conditions include Plantar Fasciitis, which I had and it lasted about a year. Other conditions include corns, bunions, blisters, and calluses. According to CVS, these are more common in women.  CVS also says that ill-fitting shoes can even cause hammer toes, heel pain, and  athlete’s foot. And don’t forget about big toe arthritis and bone spurs.

The National Institute on Aging indicates that clues to your overall health can be indicated by foot health. If any of the 26 bones in the human foot is out of wack or not aligned properly, it negatively affects the rest of your body. So, yeah, wow, even a tiny bone, when unaligned, can put your body at risk for health issues.

According to Foot Health Facts, the pain in your lower back may be linked to your feet.They emphasize that foot problems could cause additional problems in your hips, knees, and ankles. It’s my personal opinion that my narrow feet and difficulty finding shoes that fit well are partially to blame for my anterior cruciate ligament snapping in half during a soccer game (search images of anterior cruciate).

That event was not only traumatizing at 14, but has affected my mind and body ever since. This is the same injury that Robert Griffin, III sustained twice in his lifetime, once during his tenure with the Washington Redskins (though I don’t know if he only tore his ligament versus it snapping in half).

Needless to say, it is apparent that foot health is imperative. This is probably even more poignant for people with narrow feet.

Learn more…

Sources:
CVS Health Information Center, accessed online June 16, 2016.
National Institute on Aging as noted online in Wikipedia.
Foot Health Facts: Healthy Feet for An Active Life, accessed online on June 17, 2017.
Written by Leslie Jones, MS. Jones earned a double major in Philosophy and Psychology from Guilford College, and a Master’s degree in Technical Communication from North Carolina State University.

New Find! Online Method for Saving Money

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So with the power of the Internet comes communication at the speed of Twitter… with the reach of Facebook, and the imagery of Pinterest and Instagram…

Never before have we seen technology connecting us in as fast a way as through the online platforms and Social Media outlets.  From Disasters to the Latest in the Hollywood or Sports Media scandals, we are more connected with each other today than ever before.

With more and more of the shared population globally joining in each and every second, of every hour, of every day.

AND EVERYDAY, WHAT WE ARE BLOGGING HERE IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE TRUE…

The Communication SuperHighway we call the Internet is creating more and more jobs, and resources made available.  More and more people are able to work online and create amazing incomes all from the comforts of home.  And I’m not just talking about the same ol’ low paying wages of being an employee.  I am talking about the ability to be a business owner, with unlimited profits and capabilities.

We here at leslieoffers.com, we have been sharing ways to save money, and well, on how to make money online here on this blogging site.  What’s more, is that we know for a fact, that we have been impacting the incomes of several families out there, and we are about to impact them even more.

Click Here, or click below (with the summary we just added to this Blogging Site) – and with an open mind, have a look at what will be making online Millionaires in the future. This is a real service, covering a real need, and with a real lucrative and literally incredibly small overhead… that is instantly able to profit you and your household from the moment you get started.

If you spend money – this program is a NO BRAINER.

If you buy and consume Groceries, Fast Food, Health Food, Gasoline – this program is a NO BRAINER.

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WHY SAIVIAN WORKS

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When you look at the Saivian Program (Click Here if you Haven’t seen the Details directly yet), for some it looks far too good to be true.  This is merely a matter of education and dropping the cloak of ignorance from how Online Marketing, and the Value of a Unique User relates to Business and Revenues.

You see, each of us that use Google Search, Google+, Facebook, Twitter, Etc… each of us are worth money to them that is equated on a revenue per day, per week, per month, per year basis.  This is used to value these Online Companies.  They are making this money from Advertisers that use their specific data on their users to market with and to advertise directly to, through the various online platforms.

So with Saivian, the power is in their Membership (us) that are submitting our Point Of Sale information (showing what and when and where we are buying); making their data and their Unique User’s worth even more.  So of course they can afford to pay out great amounts for acquisition (gaining new Unique Users).

Below are direct data and reports showing this concept in real (today) life.

Review, and when you see the light… CLICK HERE and let’s get going.  This isn’t something to wait and watch… it is something to act and move on.

Taken from BusinessInsider.com articles – the following depicts the revenue generated per “Unique User” across Social Media Platforms.  This is from Advertising Revenues.

…  …  …  Article 1  …  …  …

Frederic Filloux has an interesting analysis over at Monday Note.

Among other observations, Filloux illustrates how fantastically lucrative Google’s search business is.

On a digital-revenue-per-monthly-user basis, Google search dwarfs all other advertising-based businesses, including Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter.  Traditional “content” companies, meanwhile — like the New York Times, The Guardian, and BuzzFeed — generate so little revenue per reader that they’re basically rounding errors.

Revenue per user Google Facebook TwitterMonday Note

Filloux also suggests that, if the New York Times were valued at the same multiple of revenue as BuzzFeed is, the New York Times would have a valuation of $19 billion instead of $2 billion.

For what it’s worth, the reason the NYT is not valued at the same multiple of revenue as BuzzFeed is is, in part, the result of their relative growth rates. BuzzFeed is growing at 100% per year, while the NYT is flat.

 

…  …  …  Article 2  …  …  …

by Frédéric Filloux

Some legacy media assets are vastly underestimated.

Recent annual reports and estimates for the calendar year 2014 suggest interesting comparisons between the financial performance of media (either legacy or digital) and Internet giants.

I looked at seven companies, each in a class by itself:

A few explanations are required.

For two companies, in order to make comparisons relevant, I broke down “digital revenues” as they appear in financial statements: $351m for the New York Times ($182m in digital advertising + $169m for digital subscriptions) and, for The Guardian, $106m (the equivalent of the £69.5m in the Guardian Media Group annual report).

Audience numbers come from ComScore (Dec 2014 report) for a common reference. We’ll note traffic data do vary when looking at other sources – which shows the urgent need for an industry-wide measurement standard.

For valuations, stock data provide precise market cap figures, but I didn’t venture putting a number the Guardian’s value. For BuzzFeed, the $850m figure is based on its latest round of investment. I selected BuzzFeed because it might be one of the most interesting properties to watch this year: It built a huge audience of 77m UVs (some say the number could be over 100m), mostly by milking endless stacks of listicles, with clever marketing and an abundance of native ads. And, at the same time, BuzzFeed is poaching a number first class editors and writers, including, recently, from the Guardian and ProPublica; it will be interesting to see how Buzzfeed uses this talent pool. (For the record: If founder Jonah Peretti and editor-in-chief Ben Smith pull this off, I will gladly revise my harsh opinion of BuzzFeed).

The New York Times is an obvious choice: It belongs to the tiny guild of legacy media that did almost everything right for their conversion to digital. The $169m revenue coming from its 910,000 digital subscribers didn’t exist at all seven years ago, and digital advertising is now picking up thanks to a decisive shift to native formats. Amazingly enough, the New York Times sales team is said to now feature a ratio of one to one between hardcore sales persons and creative people who engineer bespoke operations for advertisers. Altogether, last year’s $351m in digital revenue far surpasses newsroom costs (about $200m).

A “normal” board of directors would certainly ask management why it does not consider a drastic downsizing of newspaper operations and only keep the fat weekend edition. (I believe the Times will eventually go there.)

The Guardian also deserves to be in this group: It became a global and digital powerhouse that never yielded to the click-bait temptation. From its journalistic breadth and depth to the design of its web site and applications, it is the gold standard of the profession – but regrettably not for its financial performances, read Henry Mance’s piece in the FT.

Coming back to our analysis, Google unsurprisingly crushes all competitors when it comes its financial performance against its audience (counted in monthly unique visitors):

Google monetizes its UVs almost five times better than its arch-rival Facebook, and 46 times better than The New York Times Digital. BuzzFeed generates a tiny $1.30 per unique visitors per year.

When measured in terms of membership — which doesn’t apply to digital media — the gap is even greater between the search engine and the rest of the pack :

The valuation approach reveals an apparent break in financial logic. While being a giant in every aspects (revenue, profit, market share, R&D spending, staffing, etc), Google appears strangely undervalued. When you divide its market capitalization by its actual revenue, the multiple is not even 6 times the revenue. By comparison, BuzzFeed has a multiple of 8.5 times its presumed revenue (the multiple could fall below 6 if its audience remains the same and its projected revenue increases by 50% this year as management suggests.)  Conversely, when using this market cap/revenue metric, the top three (Twitter, Facebook, and even LinkedIn) show strong signs of overvaluation:

Through this lens, if Wall Street could assign to The New York Times the ratio Silicon Valley grants BuzzFeed (8.5 instead of a paltry 1.4), the Times would be worth about $19bn instead of the current $2.2bn.

Again, there is no doubt that Wall Street would respond enthusiastically to a major shrinkage of NYTCo’s print operations; but regardless of the drag caused by the newspaper itself, the valuation gap is absurdly wide when considering that 75% of BuzzFeed traffic is actually controlled by Facebook, certainly not the most reliably unselfish partner.

As if the above wasn’t enough, a final look confirms the oddity of market valuations. Riding the unabated trust of its investors, BuzzFeed brings three times less money per employee  than The New York Times does (all sources of revenue included this time):

I leave it to the reader to decide whether this is a bubble that rewards hype and clever marketing, or if the NYT is an unsung investment opportunity.

 

Article 1 Referenced from direct blog at: http://www.businessinsider.com/google-search-revenue-per-user-2015-2

Article 2 Referenced from direct blog at: http://www.mondaynote.com/2015/02/15/the-nytimes-could-be-worth-19bn-instead-of-2bn/


New Find! Online Method for Saving Money

*Posts contain affiliate links and I’ll earn a small commission if you shop through them.  This is how we help to make money so we can continue to bring you amazing content.

So with the power of the Internet comes communication at the speed of Twitter… with the reach of Facebook, and the imagery of Pinterest and Instagram…

Never before have we seen technology connecting us in as fast a way as through the online platforms and Social Media outlets.  From Disasters to the Latest in the Hollywood or Sports Media scandals, we are more connected with each other today than ever before.

With more and more of the shared population globally joining in each and every second, of every hour, of every day.

AND EVERYDAY, WHAT WE ARE BLOGGING HERE IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE TRUE…

The Communication SuperHighway we call the Internet is creating more and more jobs, and resources made available.  More and more people are able to work online and create amazing incomes all from the comforts of home.  And I’m not just talking about the same ol’ low paying wages of being an employee.  I am talking about the ability to be a business owner, with unlimited profits and capabilities.

We here at leslieoffers.com, we have been sharing ways to save money, and well, on how to make money online here on this blogging site.  What’s more, is that we know for a fact, that we have been impacting the incomes of several families out there, and we are about to impact them even more.

Click Here, or click below (with the summary we just added to this Blogging Site) – and with an open mind, have a look at what will be making online Millionaires in the future. This is a real service, covering a real need, and with a real lucrative and literally incredibly small overhead… that is instantly able to profit you and your household from the moment you get started.

If you spend money – this program is a NO BRAINER.

If you buy and consume Groceries, Fast Food, Health Food, Gasoline – this program is a NO BRAINER.

If you like getting the best deals, and then getting even a better deal – this program is a NO BRAINER.

Literally get paid to Shop!  Help with Marketing Data Research by sending in your Shopping Receipts.  Earn up to 20% CASHBACK on your purchases (that you are making anyway each week).  Plus, help with the Marketing and earn $5, $20, $30, $50, $100 and upwards of thousands per day for helping to build the Research System.  Details Here!

Yes, this is something we have found to be unbelievable, and a way for our family’s budget to instantly go further.  What is more, is that this very method you are about to look at is a way to cover, replace, and then some…

Just get the information here, and get going already…

 


Get Out of Your Cubicle and into Your Life 2

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Hi! My current 9-5 job recently moved me into literally a cubicle that is about 2.5 feet wide. Now, first, I have a hard time believing that this meets the job safety standards set by OSHA. Regardless, however, it has been detrimental to my body. I’ve had back spasms for three weeks. They are getting better, but have not gone away, and are still painful–even with Advil, muscle relaxers, and salon pas! Anyway, I had to work from home some and take some time off as well.

I’ve been in transition for some time now, going from my 9-5 job into my online marketing job. I want to do my rubbertoesbaby and my leslie’s offers sites along with other avenues for earning cash. Fortunately, this is going well for me. However, I didn’t want to leave my 9-5 team mates in the lurch, especially now, when we/they are going through a challenging time there. You know, I don’t think I’ll go into all of the gritty details, but suffice it to say that I reached the end of my rope–the point where I couldn’t take working in that environment anymore, not matter how much I truly like my teammates.

So, I made the gutsy decision to quit and plan to work only on social media, which I LOVE!

It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be to tell my boss. Of course, my boss wasn’t so happy with me to say the least. But, I knew it was the right decision because my health was being affected negatively, I had no time or energy for my family. And I was miserable. Sounds trite, I’m sure, but it was THE TRUTH.

I had already spoken to my husband about this. And I texted him to tell him. We were both a bit nervous.

I mean, really, was I brave or dumb, lol!

Well, about 24 hours passed and I was in a meeting with my team. Turns out they REALLY didn’t want to lose me, so they offered to let me work part time and work from home some. Well, this was the perfect solution that would give me steady income while I also increase my online income, so that I can make the transition from one to the other when I’m ready.

I think that this experience was meant to happen exactly as it happened and turned out ideal. I literally got out of my cubicle and into the life that I really want for myself and my family. I’m HAPPY!

I might not advise everyone to quit their job, but maybe if you have opened other avenues for your self, and listen closely to God, or the energy around you, or yourself, or whatever it is that you believe in, you will hear and know when it’s time to make that brave move. If you’re a round peg, don’t squish yourself into that square hole. Trust and find out what else is out there for you. That’s what I’m doing and now, I am making room for myself in this world, to breathe, stretch, be creative, and really fulfill who I am meant to be.

This is my perspective. There are so many other perspectives out there. Where do you fit in? Think about it. Feel what’s going on around you. Don’t do what I do necessarily, but maybe open your mind and imagine what’s just above the horizon. This life won’t go on forever. Stretch your self and see how much space you really need.

Leslie Jones has two B.S. degrees in Philosophy and Psychology from Guilford College, and an M.S. degree in Technical Communication from North Carolina State University.


Life Starts at the Beginning

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I remember being a kid. Do you? I know why I don’t drink soda now nor play video games. I just don’t like them; but why? Do you remember what you could and could not do as a child? Do you remember what your parents or caretakers wouldn’t let you do? Well, for sure, I remember that my mom and dad wouldn’t let me drink cokes or sprites or other soda, except on the very rare occasion. And my mom certainly wouldn’t have cable tv in the house, much less allow me to play video games. And so it continues through to this very moment–though I do love movies on Netflix.

One particular experience I had yesterday made me think of all this. My family recently moved into a new neighborhood. Though our particular inroad was relatively peaceful at night and there were good neighbors with good kids for our kids to play with, our previous neighborhood literally had the occasional drug raid–a meth lab, if I heard correctly. And from what I heard, the situation was better recently than in the past. Needless to say, that was one big reason why we moved.

But another big reason was because of all the successes my husband and I have worked hard to achieve, and so achieve we did, and moved into a wonderful, established neighborhood in a newly built house. A dream come true for us. Yet, one never knows what is just around the corner. So, when my 6-yr old wanted to go down the street to play with the 15-and 18-year old boys shootin’ hoops, my husband and I were hesitant. That’s a huge age difference. I was suprised my youngest would feel comfortable enough to even want to play with them. I certainly would not have let him at our previous house.

My son started crying. The thing with this particular child of mine is that he doesn’t cry for nothing. Something has to really bother him for him to cry. He’s not a whiner, unlike my middle child, who is the best actor on the planet and whines away sometimes. Nevertheless, because my youngest boy was very upset, I carefully thought about what it meant for him to visit down the street to play with these older neighbors of ours.

Here is what I came up with.

Cons:

  • He’s much younger than they are.

  • I don’t know these other kids yet.

  • They’ll reject him.

  • I’ll have to watch him constantly.

  • And on and on.

Pros:

  • His brother was over at friends house.

  • My son is lonely.

  • He is 6 and strongly wants to connect to others in our new environment.

  • What an amazing thing that he is not embarrassed or shy to go out into this world of unknown and obviously older kids.

  • I don’t want to stifle this instinct in him to act in a positive way to connect to the world.

  • What a shame if I don’t let him try.

  • Okay, I’ll go sit out in the yard and keep a very distant eye on him while he connects with these other boys.

He was super excited!

He actually ended up having a wonderful day. I felt comfortable with the situation and didn’t have to helicopter him. They played basketball and soccer, played with a little dog, ate lunch outside with them. He came back to our house to get drinks and generally check in. When I told him to come back if the boys go inside, he did it!

He connected with the world and received a positive response. This is now ingrained in his psyche. He will do it in the future. This is a developmentally wonderful experience. The other boys were accommodating with my son and shared their soccer and basketballs with him. They threw hoops and kicked a soccer ball around with him. So as he connected with the world that day, so shall he do in the future.

Isn’t it the Bible that says something to the effect of: train up a child the way he should be, so shall he be as a man. (Okay, so I’m not a specialist on the Bible, but hopefully I am close to paraphrasing what it says and captured the meaning of it.) Now this makes more sense to me–like one of Oprah’s “Ah HA!” moments. As is often the case, terms, words, and sayings have a deeper meaning than lies at the surface. And, experiences carve out meaning and habit in a person’s psyche–for better or worse.

So what will you do the next time your young child wants to:

  • Help do the dishes (and make a mess)?

  • Fold the laundry (and fold it wrong)?

  • Fix their own breakfast (and spill the milk)?

  • Pick out their own clothes (and look like a cowboy going skiing)?

If you say yes, your child could learn:

  • To help their partner do housework.

  • Cook breakfast for the family.

  • Learn who they are as an individual.

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Leslie A Jones is a blogger who earned a B.S. in Psychology and a B.S. in Philosophy from Guilford College. She earned her Master’s degree in Technical Communication from NCSU.

Blog of Horror – Post 1

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Are you a horror freak? Well, I’ll admit, I am. I don’t know why, but I love the supernatural, horror, good vs. evil; everything but slasher films. That’s gratuitous and what’s the purpose of that except for feeding some fetish. Okay, if you have a fetish, that’s fine. I suppose everyone has some kind of fetish. I just don’t like the slasher fetishes.

So what’s your favorite horror movie? I’m not sure what mine is, but I do like “Stigmata,” and “Darkness.” In one, good wins. In the latter, it looks like evil has taken hold, but I always have hope. 🙂

So, sometimes I wonder why I’m so interested in this to begin with (hey, I guess it’s my fetish, or at least one of them, if I have others, I’m not sure). Maybe it’s the super powers that both darkness and light seem to have. Maybe it’s the weird creepy-crawly people on the ceiling or the invisible people or creatures under the bed. Or what about that weird old photo in Darkness–you know, the one with the eye glasses that looks like they can’t see through them.

On the other hand maybe it’s the blazing fire that seems to want to cleanse everything around it when Patricia Arquette is in the bed at the end of the movie and the priests are trying to exorcise her and get the saint-priest soul out of her. It seems strange that fire would come from God, but then again….

Anyway, try this for all kinds of films.